I used to own a feminist blog. I used to technically be “SJW”, though I tried not to get too crazy. While I’m still always going to identify as a feminist no matter what and I won’t abandon my beliefs simply because a lot of assholes share my beliefs (not all Christians stop being Christian because of the Westboro Baptist Church after all) I felt like I had to leave the SJW community on Tumblr due to disagreeing with some things. One of the biggest ones being the desire to ban words such as “bitch”, “slut”, “whore”, “cunt”, and “bossy”.
My fellow feminists would probably scream at me for supporting sex shaming and purity culture. I most certainly do NOT. I live in a heavily conservative part of the south and I’ve actually managed to piss people off for being against sex shaming.
My point is, banning words don’t do a goddamn thing. Think about it. The N-word is considered offensive, as is the R-word as well as the other F-word. I don’t like when people use those slurs, but that doesn’t stop racism from being alive and well. Disabled people are still treated poorly, and people in the LGBT community still face discrimination (I had a friend who COULD NOT come out to his family or else he would be kicked out of the house!). My point is, even if we banned words used to demean women, it wouldn’t do shit to stop misogyny.
What SJWs need to know is that we need to not just ban words, but to help get rid of the STIGMA that brings meaning to these words. We need to get rid of the idea that women must always be pure and virginal and that our worth as human beings must be based on how much sex we’ve had. We need to get rid of the idea that women who actually stand up for themselves and don’t take shit from anyone are mean-spirited and “bitchy”. SJWs can ban words all they want, but that’s not gonna stop women from being labeled unfairly.
This really goes to show how absolutely fucking shallow SJWs are with their thinking. They only look at the surface elements of things. These words they want to ban are only the surface elements of misogyny and not the whole thing. They view outward physical appearance as a way of understanding “privilege” while ignoring other factors (such as disability, mental health, class, sexual orientation, religion, and other things that aren’t always visible) that could give someone the shit end of the stick. They never look for context, never look for a deeper meaning beyond what they see on the surface.
There is absolutely no way we can fight oppression by banning every word in the English language. Ableism hasn’t been stopped just because the “ban the R-word” campaigns got a fuckton of publicity. Racism hasn’t ended since racial slurs were “banned”. If SJWs demand to be taken seriously, I think they need to stop thinking so concretely and learn to look for deeper meanings that go beyond a few words.
I’ve been afraid to say this to my fellow feminists because tumblr feminists are notorious for being vitriolic towards anyone who disagrees with them (and they are, I’ve pissed off radfems more than once and….it is NOT fun). But I hope someday they’ll learn to abandon their shallow way of thinking when it comes to fighting oppression and how it’s really more than a matter of using words. Ironically, believing that words alone cause oppression is a very sheltered, and hilariously enough, very “privileged” mindset.